One Year Blogiversary!
It has been one heck of a year since I officially launched this website. What started out as a personal project, has blossomed into so much more. In one year, I’ve written approximately 45 blog posts, reached over 1,000 followers on Instagram (awareness for the win!), landed a spot writing for Parent’s Connect, the official Parenting Blog for Nicklaus Children’s Hospital, launched the #DisabledForaDayCampaign which was highlighted on News With a Twist on WGNO, had my work published in Parents Latina magazine, and planned a Giveaway for Special Needs Moms in three cities with almost 40 total sponsors. I’ve also made the temporary move from New Orleans to Birmingham, recorded vocals for an upcoming album, sang with the Louisiana Philharmonic Orchestra (dream job!), oh, and raised a tiny human in the process.
Oscar went from being a one-year old with no speech or mobility to a two year old with sounds, movement, accessories, and energy galore. He still has his feeding tube, and now has orthotics, AFOs, glasses, a hearing aid, a stander, and hopefully we’ll be getting a gait trainer very soon. He started an Early Learning Program at an inclusive daycare, where he goes two days a week, all day long. Since about a month ago, he doesn’t even cry when I drop him off — which might have something to do with all the girlfriends he’s been making at school, so I hear. Those darn curls! He also goes to another therapy program twice a week where we’ve made some great friends. Oscar loves circle time — especially singing and story time, where he’s proven to be a master drummer and page turner (fine motor skills on point!). He’s sitting up on his own, although he still has the very frustrating habit of just throwing himself backwards when he feels like it, which has given a few strangers quite the heart attack when we’re out and about. I’m so used to it, I’ve developed a crazy fast reflex to catch him without skipping a beat, but last week at Barnes and Nobles’ book club (yes, you read that right), Oscar decided to show off this skill to all the ladies at our table. Needless to say, we almost needed the defibrillator for the woman sitting next to me. Per usual, Tummy Time might as well be the apocalypse, but there is definitely more of a delay in the all out scream fest that will surely ensue. He had at least five ER visits in the past year, with two hospital admissions - one was six days long over the Christmas Holiday, and one was two days long — not too bad. Overall, he’s doing great! We still have a ton of work to do, and it is exhausting, but we’re doing the very best we can, and seeing lots of improvements and growth.
Chris is almost done with his first clerkship here in Birmingham, meaning we need to start looking for a place to live in Cheyenne, our next stop. (No biggie, right?) His work schedule is far more pleasant than his Law School schedule ever was. In fact, I don’t think I realized how much I did not see Chris during law school until he started working. It’s almost strange to see him every day — sometimes we even get lunch together! It feels like such a treat compared to the living hell that is being a Law School Wife. Being in a new city together has also been really great for our marriage. We’ve had to really work together to keep the wheels turning at home, and we are in a great place. We’ve had time get to know the new versions of each other, re establish our friendship, and LAUGH, a lot. We have a weekly date night that we look forward to every Thursday, giving us a chance to explore the town, dress up, and connect as a couple. Despite not knowing anyone in Birmingham, we’ve cultivated some really great friendships here and love the city. We have been blown away by the resources and establishments in place for children and adults with disabilities and specials needs here in Birmingham. We are extremely motivated to implement these ideas in our hometown of New Orleans once we are permanently back.
As for me, I’m excited to see where INTC goes this year! I love building connections in person and through social media. I’m working on caring for myself and have started working with a personal trainer. I’ve also found a great counselor who is helping me work through the grief and trauma of my pregnancy, Oscar’s birth and diagnosis, recent miscarriage, and just life stuff in general. It’s nice to focus on these things in a quiet setting, with an objective listener, on my own terms. It’s given me lots of interesting ideas for future posts. I’ve also learned that I’m someone who sees “loss” as opportunity — which makes complete sense, and I’ve learned that that’s okay. It’s just how I’m wired, and it doesn’t make me a weird positivity robot. It balances out nicely with my husbands pragmatic view of the world, and grumpy tendencies. We make it work, and that’s really all that matters. I have big dreams for our future as a family, and as an entrepreneur, and I’m thrilled to share it all with you here, on It’s (not too) Complicated.